More musing on my own bad habits

[guenievre]

So I've realized I have even more self-destructive tendencies than I thought, other than just my semi-ADD nature. Or maybe everyone does this, and it's not just me.

Do you ever find yourself going longer and longer without doing something *purely* because you're embarassed / frustrated with yourself for not having done it in the first place? ie calling a friend, or cleaning your house, or... ::insert task here:: Not because the task would have originally been *bad*, of course, but for whatever reason you didn't do it and now you made the situation worse... ::sigh::

One of these days I'll learn to not do that.

Comments

[rufinia.livejournal.com]

Oh yes. Many times. (::eyes messy room::)

[liadethornegge.livejournal.com]

I believe my answer to that is an emphatic: hell Yes.

When you find the trick to breaking the vicious circle, let me know. I promise to do the same...

[apollonia.livejournal.com]

Oh, I do that ALL THE TIME!!!!! I hate that I do it, but I keep doing it. Like with my research paper. I've had 2 different In A Phoenix Eye's to prepare it for, 2 years in-between them. Is it done? Is it even started yet? Nope. And I mentioned to people that I was going to get going on it, and now I am embarrassed because I haven't followed through.

Some days I just want to beat myself about the head...

[ciorstan.livejournal.com]

Are we, like, sekrit long-lost twins or something?

I find myself having done that all the time. And I resolve never to do it again, but...

[widowspeak.livejournal.com]

Right there with you, hon. You're not alone. *glances furtively about her kitchen* Yeah, SO with you. :P

[siderea]

You have no idea.

OK, maybe you do. :}

[ornerie.livejournal.com]

nope, definatley not you. and I pride myself on being disgustingly well adjusted.

my avoidance? the doctor. how's that for stupid?

bad habits...

[lady-richende.livejournal.com]

I can definitely understand and empathize with you on this one. I think it comes of wanting everything to be perfect, knowing that said state of perfection will probably *never* exist, so it becomes easier to do nothing that to make attempt and fail to live up to one's own expections, which are usually a lot higher than anyone else's expectations of you. If you do nothing, you can't fail ... Someone very wise said to me once "Never let doing something *good* get in the way of doing something *well*" ... Hint, hint ...

Hope that helps motivate you somewhat, it does me somedays...

[ealdthryth.livejournal.com]

All the time!

[azpapillion.livejournal.com]

Its called procrastination and its just one of those things that takes an extra step (for me) when I start getting into that situation. I just need to sit down and say to myself, "I cannot avoid this any longer" and start/do it. I'm having that issue with Thank you cards... :)

[zihuatanejo.livejournal.com]

Oh God yes.

I havn't called my BEST FRIEND since January... because now I'm so embarrassed. What would I say on the phone? "Hey BEST FRIEND, 'tis I, who haven't called you in SIX MONTHS, calling you now just to see how your divorce, three kids, new job, etc. are doing..."

Argh. I know she wouldn't care, after all, she hasn't called me either and she is, after all, the aforementioned best friend whom I've known since kindergarten, but still. I'm ashamed.

I do the same thing with bills, too. Which are much more damaging to put off, and yet I do it every month. And cleaning the litter boxes. Arguably the most damaging of all. Poor kittles.

[edela-evertsz.livejournal.com]

at least you know your best friend's scheduel. I called her last year. Things weren't going so well for her. Other friends had died, her sis married (not bad, just busy), and she wasn't sure of her job. She never calls me anymore. We only spoke for a few minutes. I'll call her now.

[edela-evertsz.livejournal.com]

This sucks!! Her old roomate still lives at the number, but she's moved on. I have no way of contacting her. Don't lose touch.

[evan-page.livejournal.com]

Definitely. I'm just starting to study for my first big exam of the summer... that I have tomorrow. Procrastinators of the world unite! (on of these days)

[nikulai.livejournal.com]

Ya know... I meant to post a comment earlier... and then I hadnt so I got embarassed and well... you know how it is *hangs head*

[llelwyn.livejournal.com]

I do that all the time. ALL the time. *sigh*

~L

[symon-lochner.livejournal.com]

I did that with my gender. it was very bad. I've missed out on many years of being a hottie and I regret putting it off. Happiness now though. :)

[isenglass.livejournal.com]

Hope you don't mind me friending you. Been reading a long time but just joined LJ.

[isenglass.livejournal.com]

I'm Iseulte from Tir-y-Don. I don't think we've actually met but I ran across your LJ from another user's list some time ago and enjoy reading your entries.

[(Anonymous)]

Isn't this how everyone works...
I always mean to send 'thankyous' promptly. I have piles of stationary and stamps and it just never gets done... Then I remember and it's a month or more later... I find if I don't write them right away it's never happening! Airports and planes saved me from much grief with wedding thankyous!